How to Find Your Own Style
In a world full of trends and tons of style/fashion influence sometimes it can be hard navigating what’s really your unique style, how to find, shop for it, keep it consistent, and cater towards what actually fits your specific lifestyle.
Here’s how it can be hard …
For example, in the past I’d find myself purchasing some things that I needed like maybe a dress for a wedding or a few outfits to bring with me while traveling which is great…but here’s where I’d go wrong. Purchasing too many trendy items like a printed pattern that’s “in”, colors I wouldn’t normally wear everyday, a bunch of statement pieces that I’d be over by next season, accessories that I barely wear etc. All I’m saying here is that with trends they come and go (hence spending $600+ on louboutin shoes that hurt & are kinda not a thing anymore) —but true style that is unique to your lifestyle remains FOREVER…plus it will save you hella money. Furthermore, I’m not saying don’t purchase trendy things here and there—I’m saying purchase what makes sense for your wardrobe aesthetic and true to your style direction.
Style Tip Time
Now if you’ve read any of my style post in the past you know I have an obsession with organizing my things and getting rid of things that no longer suit me—constantly creating space for what I want in my life. So with that said I’ve done things like organized my closet by color, sold my clothes and shoes on my favorite app Poshmark, donated to GoodWill…very often, or re-purposing things.
The very point of me doing that each season was to get closer to my uniqueness and purchase items with intention, which essentially made me a smarter shopper! I also took a closer look at what I was actually wearing on a day-to-day basis, what made me feel confident, super comfortable, and stylish! I looked at what colors I leaned more towards, different cuts, and silhouettes. I’ve even created mood boards on my Pinterest from eras like the 70’s, movies I was inspired by, travel destinations, people who inspired me etc.— just to help me understand myself more and to start purchasing in that way.
What I discovered through this was the colors I loved most were mainly classics…blues, black, greys, white, lots of denim, with a pop of glam here and there. Once I learned that, I removed what wasn’t working and that for me ranged from fits I didn’t like, colors of course, patterns that were too loud, etc. This process became very freeing!
So at this point in my life classic colors, simplicity, a little sparkle and freedom are what fuels me—this can all change someday, but right now this is what makes me happy. My lifestyle right now consists of me building my personal brand, working as a brand ambassador, acting, and attending events in between. With that said for the most part I’m rarely styling myself when working…I’m wearing what’s required of my roles. However, for those in-between days…when catching up with family/friends, attending events, dinner dates, auditioning, or running errands I’m wearing what I discovered about my new style and spending wisely!
Take this above photo for example, I’m wearing blue denim, a black top, and my shoes sparkle (pop of glam). It’s simple, an everyday look for me, and makes sense for my lifestyle when I’m not working. These jeans are super comfy, and the top is a soft cotton material with stretch…my body feels happy, so I am happy.
How to Find Your Own Style
Here are my top 3 suggestions for you to start finding your own style.
1. Inspiration is all around you, notice how you decorate your home, take a look at the outfits you’ve been wearing for the past two weeks. Notice if there’s a pattern to the way you are dressing in these weeks…are there any repeated colors, or repeated outfits within this time frame? If so, that may be your colors.
2. When you travel or go places notice what you find captivating. For example, I spent sometime at The Met Breuer Museum this past weekend, and found more inspiration through art, which made sense to my unique style.
3. Where are you spending most of your time throughout the course of the day…is it at work? Do you have a job that requires a uniform, is your job more conservative...or are you able to wear anything you want? Bottom line is why buy things you barely get to wear. Sure splurge on outfits that you want/need for those trips, date nights, events etc.— but make sure you can wear it more than once right? Outside of those one offs, if your lifestyle doesn’t match what you are purchasing why waste money on things just for it to sit in your closet and never wear #pointless.
Bonus Tip: Try thinking of 3 adjectives that truly describe you, your style, and fits your lifestyle…then work from there.
Also I’ve been getting a few questions about these jeans. They’re from Zara…got them on sale, so who knows if they’ll still be around. However, stores like Gap, Urban Outfitters, and Levis carry some baggy denim looks that are similar to the ones I am wearing. I recommend checking those places out too.
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